It all started with some well meaning comments from some good friends who after seeing bubba's stockpile of gear and knowing the extent of my mother's shopping (peeps, she puts me to utter shame), queried me in dismay asking what was even left for them to buy me/bubba for the baby shower. Despite my reassurance that gifts are completely unnecessary, my friends have all been quite specific that they would like to buy me/bubba something special. Their dismay has actually left me feeling a little guilty about my and my mothers' shopping however my friends have also assured me they understand my need to shop given it is S and my first born and that it just makes their job a little harder.
I discussed this with my sister and here is where things started to go pear shaped. She suggested a baby shower registry might be in order to help my friends out. My sister is quite a logical and practical person by nature... she is also blunt, to the point and loves to be organised even more than I do. She is also in charge of organising my shower. We discussed the registry and I mentioned that I felt a little uncomfortable about it as I would hate for guests to interpret it as a demand for gifts. K pointed out that my guests are all close friends and know me well enough to know that is not the case at all. She also pointed out that a registry at somewhere reasonable had been well received by guests at other baby showers she had attended recently and I should consider it.
I decided to poll a few friends and get their thoughts on a baby shower registry. I actually took a broad range of samples from a big demographic including some of S' friends wives, my MiL (a stickler for etiquette) and SiL, my mother and some of her friends, some girls I work with and of course my best friend M. To my absolute surprise, every single lady I spoke to bar one was in favour of a registry and commented on how easy it would make their shopping in addition to buying something I actually needed for bubba and not doubling up on gifts which they all told me would be embarrassing for them. M was completely and vehemently against registering saying that it was a little presumptuous of me and we discussed my reasons at length and we ended up agreeing to disagree.
Based on the feedback around me, I ended up registering at Toys R Us ... and let me tell you, what a lengthy and involved process. The staff were very helpful and a scanner was provided but it took my sis and I a good 90 minutes to walk the store, scan and register the said items. As I already have bought so much, we had to go through things carefully to ensure we didn't double up. I also wanted a really broad range of options for people who choose to use the registry as a guide so include lots of bits and bobs like Bonds suits and pram/cot toys by Brights Starts and Lamaze. I only had two big items on the list (a Baby Bjorn carrier and a F & P Jumperoo) as I know some friends might like to band together and chip in but overall I kept the list to items around or well under $30 to show people we don't need much and I don't want or expect them to go to a lot of expense.
My sis is under strict instructions to ensure guests they don't need to a) bring a gift at all b) consult the registry at all if they choose and/or c) they can use the registry as a guide only and feel free to purchase whatever from wherever.
I am pretty satisfied with my decision to register as I know the people I am inviting know me well enough to know it is a guide for their convenience only and not an expectation or presumption on my part in any way. It is something I would be happy to consult for a baby shower and Toys R Us is a pretty reasonable option and location for most people.
Did you have a registry for your baby shower or have you been to a shower with a registry?
On another note, here are some new things on my list for bubba...
Moo Goo products - http://moogoo.com.au/
I found out they do a range of baby products last night after an impromptu chemist visit to get a prescription for the husband filled (he has a severe ear ache unfortunately and makes a miserable patient).
Anyway, after some googling and what not, the products sound ideal for newborn skin and they even offer a mother & baby gift pack with all the essentials:
The Mum and Baby Gift Boxes includes:
- The Scalp Cream is a beautiful moisturizer for babies that will also take care of any Cradle Cap.
- Nappy Balm: a balm for red bottoms using natural oils not petroleum based or synthetic chemicals
- Anti-Ageing Cream (for Mum) is great for dry skin, and the Ascorbyl Tetraisapalmitate (a stable form of Vitamin C), and Resveratrol, the latest breakthrough compound found in red grapes that reduces Melanin production which helps with the pigmentation that can follow pregnancy.
- The Milk Wash is already a favourite with many Mums. The Glucose based cleansers were originally designed for baby wipes, and have the same skin irritation score as water. Much gentler for the baby any other cleanser available.
- Skin Milk is a lighter moisturising lotion. It easily penetrates the skin with healing ingredients and without an oil film on the surface of the skin; and
- A Cow Lick Lip Balm: an edible balm to keep lips moist and healthy. Lots of Mum’s also find it helps to soothe when sore from breastfeeding.
A Flat Out Bear - http://www.flatout.com.au/bears.htm
I just think this is a gorgeous and very practical teddy bear for bubba. They feel so soft and plush in real life and I love that they are not too big and are flat so make the ideal sleeping companion with bubba when he is a bit older and able to/wanting to sleep with teddies.
Soft, cuddly and flat, the FLATOUTbear is made of 100% pure Australian sheepskin shaped like a teddy bear. They are just gorgeous. They're natural, plush and luxurious - perfect for babies, kids, grannies... What can we say, everyone loves FLATOUTbears.
It is no wonder the FLATOUTbear has a star studded fan base including Princess Mary of Denmark, Brooke Shields and Hugh Jackman. Sarah Jessica Parker termed the FLATOUTbear "charming and adorable", Tom Cruise had it on his baby wish-list, Jennifer Garner "loves it". The FLATOUTbear is now seen around the world.
If you have a FLATOUTbear already, read no further because you know how fabulous they are:
We also bought the Fisher Price Precious Planets portacot on sale from Toys R Us for just $99.95 - it was half price! We were originally going to just use a friend's one but then for the price, thought it worth investing in our own given we hope to have another bub after this one or if not, I can always pass it on to my sis when she has a baby.